I distinctly remember being a child and realizing that no one could read my thoughts. It was a very freeing thing for me to know that I couldn’t get in trouble and no human would ever be able to judge me for what I thought in the privacy of my own head. This was the beginning of my love affair with thinking. In your head, … Continue reading Your Brain is a Great Place to be Wrong
The most devastating experience I ever had was losing pretty much every friend I had after I made the decision to raise my oldest son despite being unmarried. I had friends that I loved with all my heart who cut off all contact with me and stop sharing anything about their own lives. (I wrote a bit about how and why I made the decision … Continue reading You are not my friend – the list
Much to my family of origin’s dismay, sometimes my life is weird. And interesting. For example, earlier this year I had a chance to learn massage therapy from a crazy, old, hippy, Christian massage and hypnotherapist. He was a bit of a charlatan and con-artist, but a pretty sincere one. If you asked him, he would tell you the color of your aura, how many … Continue reading Much-Ado-About-Feelings
As far as the east is from the west, I will remove your sins from you. – God That’s the offer of forgiveness we all want to take. But when it comes to forgiveness between us humans, as far as the east is from the west is a bit much to contemplate. God knows this. In fact, when the disciples were told that they had … Continue reading Stages of Forgiving
Sometimes someone you know is doing something that any idiot – yourself included – can see is heading for disaster. Most likely the person doing this knows that everyone thinks they are making a huge mistake. (If they don’t, if you are any sort of friend you need to be brave enough to gently raise it with them.) Once they know that others do not … Continue reading When Someone You Love is Making a Big Mistake
Forgiveness is absolutely essential, but sometimes our hurts are just so big. Here are some steps I have found useful in getting to a point of forgiveness. 1. Be realistic about your pain and what it is you are forgiving. If you are angry, be angry. If you are hurt, be hurt. Don’t pretend it’s not as bad as it is. If you are destroyed, … Continue reading Steps to Forgiveness
So often, we mean to change, but our brain won’t cooperate. We will do our best to let go of or forgive something only to have the same thoughts and feelings show up again and again. Or we determine to do or not do something but we keep getting pulled off course by forgetfulness or temptation or habit. If we don’t know better, we will … Continue reading Change and Brain Habits
1. “Lord, please make this idiot stop being a moron.” 2. “Lord, please help this person stop doing terrible things.” 3. “Lord, please turn this person’s heart towards you so he can change.” 4. “Lord, help me show this person your ways through how I deal with him.” 5. “Father, if it fits with your will, please bring a miracle to … Continue reading Ways To Pray For An Enemy
I have 2 copies of a New-York Times Bestselling book on “love languages”. Which is odd because I really don’t like the book. Since it’s a major bestseller, I guess that makes me odd. The reason I don’t like the book: it spends all its pages convincing you and teaching you to learn the love language your partner speaks. Yet the book says nothing that … Continue reading Lookin’ for Love
It has long been a practice among those who want to learn how to pray to pray a psalm each day – preferably by starting at the front and working through them in order. When you do this, you find that some days the psalm speaks to you and some days you are praying someone else’s prayer. Which is as it should be. The point … Continue reading I asked God to hit my husband with a bus
The Upside Down World 