I used to think that being wrong was unacceptable. I used to always feel bad about myself. Go figure, huh? Here’s the thing which I had missed: I wasn’t just inevitably wrong, I was unavoidably wrong. Which means that being wrong isn’t unacceptable – it can’t be helped. And in keeping with my philosophy that I don’t need to feel bad about things I can’t … Continue reading Be Wrong . . . All the Time
Ever held a beach ball under water? You can do it for a while, maybe even quite a while, but eventually the ball will pop back up to the surface and wildly careen off. It’s pretty much the way our emotions work as well. You can hold them under, but they don’t go away. Unless you can hold them under until you die (gee, doesn’t … Continue reading Some Feelings Just Have to Be Felt
I have a tendency to be very hard on myself. I had to learn to stop being my cruelest critic and become a friend. To do this, I started thinking of how I would talk to, support and encourage a friend and applied it to myself. I would never tell a friend, “well, you’re sure an idiot. No wonder no one likes you.” I don’t … Continue reading Making Friends With Me
Of all the epitaphs we throw around “lazy” is probably the one we see as inexcusable. Which is funny because we all have a tendency to be lazy. We were made to need rest. And sometimes what we call lazy is genuinely struggling to do something we’re not good at and find really unpleasant. It’s a normal part of life. And feeling bad about a … Continue reading Laziness
-Quote from The Upside Down World – A Book of Wisdom in Process. Copyright R. Trotter 2011 Continue reading There’s always a reason
It’s all well and fine to do right for the sake of right and to give because you can. But so often, there’s no reward. It’s not just a lack of appreciation, it’s as if no one even sees that you are there or what all this giving or doing right is costing you. That’s when it can be helpful to let God be your … Continue reading God Sees You
Once upon a time, a dastardly villian took a girl out to sea and left her there in the water, in the dark. She knew she was in a struggle for her life. Although it was night and she could see nothing, she couldn’t tolerate just waiting. So she took off swimming in the direction she thought land was. She swam though the night until … Continue reading On Treading Water
It doesn’t happen as often as one would think given the current state of my life, but I woke up today cursing the fact that modern medicine means that instead of being able to look forward to a nice, early death in the next couple of years, I’m probably facing another 40+ years of this shit. Yup. It’s going to be a long day. So, … Continue reading Woke Up Feeling Awful
For the 3 of you who do not know, The Pioneer Woman is Ree Drummond, a homeschooling mother of 4 who lives with her husband on a working ranch. She has an enormously popular blog, is a talented photographer, cook and writer. She is beautiful and stylish and has great taste. Her kids and her house are comfortably imperfect, but are never so out of … Continue reading I am not the Pioneer Woman –
The Upside Down World 