A Letter to a Young Black Man

I hope he doesn’t mind me doing this, but I have a stepson who is going through some stuff right now.  And while on my walk yesterday, I felt God put this message on my heart for him.  I’d like to post it here as well because I know that there are so many young men who need to hear it.  I realize that young … Continue reading A Letter to a Young Black Man

Godly Submission

Here’s my challenge to those Christians who promote a traditional view of women’s submission: If you would please point me to a place in human history when humanity has done a good job with women’s submission, then I can take what you have to say seriously.  But no such example exists. Never has, never will as long as we’re trying to do it the same … Continue reading Godly Submission

It’s Becoming a Wonderful World

OK, so after my little rant last night, I want to switch gears and temper the solemnity of the anniversary of 9/11 by taking a look at the amazing changes that have and are taking place that we should all rejoice over.  Christians know and will sometimes actually say that Jesus won.  But I don’t think many people fully appreciate how true that is.  2000 years … Continue reading It’s Becoming a Wonderful World

Tolerance and Boundaries

I was talking with a friend recently and the subject of boundaries came up.  Everyone she knows, my friend told me, struggles with setting appropriate boundaries with people.  I told her that I am not perfect at it, but I do a pretty good job with setting boundaries.  She wanted to know how I do it, but seemed less enthused when I told her the … Continue reading Tolerance and Boundaries

Beautiful Things

Now for something totally different.  I love beautiful things and I have a favorite artist I’d like to pass along to y’all.  Her name is Natasha Wescoat.  She first gained attention for her “Trees” series of paintings.  Recently, she has been drawing and painting beautiful women, children and different creatures – often for illustrations she is working.  Her work is often described as “whimsical” pop … Continue reading Beautiful Things

Hatred of the poor and the Party of God

An edited version of this essay is included in my recently published book The Upside Down World ~ A Book of Wisdom in Progress: For years I considered myself a conservative and probable Republican.  However, over the last few years I have watched first with alarm, then with disgust and now with anger as the conservative movement has given itself over to lies, manipulation and … Continue reading Hatred of the poor and the Party of God

All Praise the Kids?

Interesting story in the NY Magazine this weekend about how praising kids harms and sometimes helps them.  Much of the research about praise isn’t new to those of us to pay attention to such things, but for many people the reality of how praise can help and harm kids runs counter to what we’ve been taught to believe. The first thing that researchers have discovered … Continue reading All Praise the Kids?

The power of culture or the power of economics?

Alright, alright, enough of the hiatus! Let’s get back to this here thing.

I recently ran across a story which mentioned a variety of studies that have found that imposing financial fines for poor behavior can actually increase that behavior.  For example, studies at day care centers have found that when schools impose fines for parents who pick their children up late, they actually see an increase in the frequency of late pick-ups.  It turns out that parents were more lax about picking their children up on time when they saw their obligation as financial rather than social.  The social obligation to respect the time of the child care workers who would be inconvenienced by a tardy pick-up was a far more powerful motivator to good behavior than economic consequences.

Social scientists have observed this dynamic at work in a variety of settings and places around the world.  Yet, over the last few years we have been trained to assume that economic issues are at the root of everything from social problems to the behavior of corporations to foreign policy affairs.  Which to a certain extent makes sense.  After all, economic concerns obviously have real effects on people’s behaviors and choices.  For example, there was a sharp drop in the birth rate during the great depression as having a large family became more difficult economically.  And we have all benefited from the increased prosperity which has resulted from our free market system where the only objective is to increase economic gain (without breaking the law, hopefully).

However, the simple truth is that humans have been social creatures much longer than we have been economic creatures.  It really is difficult to overstate the power that social norms and expectations can have on people.  Continue reading “The power of culture or the power of economics?”