Note: A few years back I did some writing for a now defunct Christian magazine. I never put these articles up here because the magazine owns the rights to them, but now that they are defunct, well, I’m going to share! In the early ‘90s Salt-n-Peppa famously sang “Let’s talk about sex, baby” and boy, oh boy do we take their exhortations to heart. Sex … Continue reading Let’s talk about sex, baby!
Recently, my 16 year old son gave me what I consider to be a great compliment; he told me that I needed to talk more in conversations with other people. Of course a couple of weeks later someone else I know complained that I wouldn’t let her get a word in edgewise. Some days, I’m sure she’s right. But the fact that my kid who … Continue reading Easy Listening
Finding and explaining what’s wrong with people is a great past-time. It’s fun, easy and makes you feel better about your life. It’s the junk food of human relationships! Believe it or not, figuring out what’s good about people is a great past-time as well. It’s challenging, satisfying and makes you feel better about the world. It’s the gourmet meal of human relationships. There are … Continue reading Looking for the Good – People Edition
This afternoon, I strapped Olivia into her stroller and headed out the door for a nice, long walk. I was going to fetch the dog to come with us, but my darling Hobbes had somehow managed to escape off his non pull dog harness where I had left him to pee and bark at deer 20 minutes earlier. Again. Not to worry he wasn’t lost. He’s … Continue reading My Dog’s an A-hole
I distinctly remember being a child and realizing that no one could read my thoughts. It was a very freeing thing for me to know that I couldn’t get in trouble and no human would ever be able to judge me for what I thought in the privacy of my own head. This was the beginning of my love affair with thinking. In your head, … Continue reading Your Brain is a Great Place to be Wrong
I always feel like I’m supposed to magically know what to do or say in any situation. Perhaps I missed a bunch of days in “how to be a human” school cuz I don’t. Then again, perhaps one of the reasons people usually prefer to live predictable lives surrounded by predictable people is because it minimizes those uncomfortable caught-off-guard moments of life. However, life has … Continue reading Fake It Till Ya Make It!
according to omnipotent me. ;p If you twitter, you should go press that button over there to follow me on twitter. If you don’t follow or don’t twitter or follow so many people that watching your twitter feed is like looking into the matrix, here are some of the highlights you may have missed: How a Financial Pro Lost His House is a superb first … Continue reading The best of the week . . .
Research is discovering that we decide what to think and then look for reasons to believe that what we already think is true. In other words, we don’t make decisions or have opinions because of facts, reason or logic. We use facts, reasons and logic to support what we’ve already decided. So if it’s not reason that we are using to make our decisions and … Continue reading People who have feelings . . .
The most devastating experience I ever had was losing pretty much every friend I had after I made the decision to raise my oldest son despite being unmarried. I had friends that I loved with all my heart who cut off all contact with me and stop sharing anything about their own lives. (I wrote a bit about how and why I made the decision … Continue reading You are not my friend – the list
There’s an old story about a poor farmer’s son who goes to see a raja and his procession going through town. As the raja passes by, he drops a ring which the boy retrieves and returns to the raja. As a reward, the boy is given one of the raja’s fine horses. Everyone tells the boy how wonderful this is; now his father will have … Continue reading Suspend Judgement
The Upside Down World 